Contents
Introduction
1. Long-winded opening—good manners, compared with more weighty virtues, and why they are no less useful to a gentleman
2. Annoying behavior defined simply interms of sensual suffering
3. Disgusting things offend the senses—and even the imagination and desire
4. Galateo and Count Ricciardo—ananecdote on the importance of politeness
5. Returning to the subject of offensive and gauche habits
6. Ways we enjoy one another, and irk one another, especially in conversation
7. Dressing for success
8. Petulant and pompous and self-serving people
9. How to spoil a conversation
10. On those prim and lady like men
11. The don’ts of conversation
12. Keep your dreams to yourself
13. Liars and braggarts and the falsely modest
14. Ceremonies, especially empty compliments, discussed
15. Three kinds of compliments—why not to extend them
16. Compliments done for vanity and out of duty, and a warning about adulation
17. Why imported Spanish affectation is particularly vapid
18. Other spoken sources of annoyance: slander, contradiction, reprimanding, etc
19. The risks of mockery and ridicule and vituperative wit
20. Comic talent: those who are funny and those who try to be
21. Some practical tips on storytelling
22. Eloquence and the choice of language
23. More on the fine art of conversation
24. The verbose, the interrupters, the taciturn
25. Anecdote of the sculptor, The Rule, and a lady named Reason
26. The aesthetics of human language and human actions
27. Why hurting my senses hurts my mind
28. Grace, decorum, and restraint—and a special word on fashion sense
29. Bad table manners and getting knee-walking drunk
30. The myriad ways to be rude—and an abrupt conclusion
Notes
Bibliography