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Making the Right Choice: Narratives of Marriage in Sri Lanka
by Asha L. Abeyasekera
Rutgers University Press, 2021
eISBN: 978-1-9788-1034-1 | Cloth: 978-1-9788-1031-0 | Paper: 978-1-9788-1030-3
Library of Congress Classification HQ666.8.S72A32 2021
Dewey Decimal Classification 306.81095493


Making the Right Choice unravels the entangled relationship between marriage, morality, and the desire for modernity as it plays out in the context of middle-class status concerns and aspirations for upward social mobility within the Sinhala-Buddhist community in urban Sri Lanka. By focusing on individual life-histories spanning three generations, the book illuminates how narratives about a gendered self and narratives about modernity are mutually constituted and intrinsically tied to notions of agency. The book uncovers how "becoming modern" in urban Sri Lanka, rather than causing inter-generational conflict, is a collective aspiration realized through the efforts of bringing up educated and independent women capable of making "right" choices. The consequence of this collective investment is a feminist conundrum: agency does not denote the right to choose, but the duty to make the "right" choice; hence agency is experienced not as a sense of "freedom," but rather as a burden of responsibility.

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